As scamming in the moving industry has become more intense and more prevalent, moving companies have come under more scrutiny by consumers , before they are willing to sign a contract. One of the first signs most consumers look for, in evaluating a company is their standing with the Better Business Bureau,(BBB). BBB accreditation has meaning, but it also has limitations, and the wary consumer should know exactly what a BBB accreditation means and what it doesn’t mean.
The following story, lends some perspective to the question of just how reliable BBB accreditation is to someone seeking to evaluate a moving company. Read the words of the victim. The wording of her description indicates that she obviously got a low moving cost estimate and subsequently the company raised the price and threatened to hold her goods until she came up with the additional money. “had the worst experience ever!…very unprofessional, horrible packing job, items stolen. “
And then we ended up having to pay an extortion fee for them to deliver our furniture. I have complaints into BBB, FMCSA and AMSA to get a refund. we’ll see….. STAY AWAY!!!!! nice presentation/sales people, until you meet Louie. They are a newer company, but had no complaints with the AMSA, A- rating with BBB, etc etc. Hopefully that will change after my complaint.”
You can see what the paradox is. Here’s a company that was in excellent standing with the BBB, and yet they went on to cheat this woman, extort her and steal and destroy her goods.. So if a company with an excellent BBB rating can do this, what good is the rating?
How could this have happened? And specifically, what conclusions can be drawn from a good BBB rating. To find an answer, let us examine the words of the BBB. ” BBB accreditation does not mean that the business? products or services have been evaluated or endorsed by BBB, or that BBB has made a determination as to the business? product quality or competency in performing services.”
A BBB rating does not mean a company has been checked out by the Better Business Bureau, or that their products or services are endorsed by the Better Business Bureau.
So, what positive conclusions can be drawn from a BBB rating? Once more, let us look at the words of the BBB: “If a business has been accredited by the BBB, it means BBB has determined that the business meets accreditation standards which include a commitment to make a good faith effort to resolve any consumer complaints. BBB accredited businesses pay a fee for accreditation review/monitoring and for support of BBB services to the public.”
This last statement is important and does explain the value of the accreditation. Every company in good standing with the BBB must be willing to go through BBB arbitration, when required by the circumstances. f the BBB rules against a company, the company must comply with the ruling or face losing their good standing with the BBB.
The problem in the current instance is that the company was a newly registered company. Even if they had already extorted other people, maybe their victims didn’t take them to the BBB. Or maybe they’re victims had taken them to the BBB but the arbitration process hasn’t occurred yet. Essentially, this is a window period for scammers to go around with good BBB ratings, and take advantage of unsuspecting victims.
On the other hand, if you begin to evaluate a moving or packing company, that has been around for years, and still has a good BBB rating, that means during that entire time, they have been compliant with any BBB arbitration and ruling. That makes such a company more trustworthy.
One last point is worth making. Unfortunately, many scam companies, will open up, and after they lose their accreditation with the BBB, they will close the company and try to open up a new company under a different name and or ownership. And from time to time they are successful in resetting their status with the BBB.
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Do you ever wonder if your parents graduated magna cum laude from Guilt University? Do you ever suspect that they majored in Suffering with a minor in Acting Out of Control? All the while earning high grades for other maneuvers that make you feel guilty instantly? I?m making light of something serious to make a point. That point is that we keep many of these guilt-provoking techniques in a place deep within us that affects our outlook, self-worth and future behavior.
Imagine a forest alive with trees that are growing taller year by year. Then, one day, a woodsman comes in, ax in hand and swinging hard. The damage he does to the health of the forest is extreme, harsh, and long-term. Now think about these statements, some of which may sound familiar: ?How could you do this to me?? WHACK! ?Some day you?ll realize what I?ve done for you!? WHACK! ?I hope your children do to you what you?ve done to me!? TIMBER!
Just as the trees fall to the woodman?s ax, so does your ego under the blows of your parent?s comments. And their damage on you is just as extreme, harsh and long term. But just as the forest comes back to good health over time, so can you come back to your own state of health and happiness.
Communication takes many forms and so does manipulation. We?ve just touched on the verbal kinds of guilt-provoking examples, what about their nonverbal counterparts? Pouting. Withdrawing. Icy stares. Cold shoulders. Helpless sobbing. Forlorn looks. If all this drama is directed toward one small child, how could he or she not be affected?
Manipulation: Two New Varieties, Same Old Guilt
Ever experience the Knife Twist? How about the Bludgeon? Both bring you to the same place?guilt. Let?s start with the parent who manipulates via ?knife twisting.? For the child whose parents want him or her to be excessively devoted to them, no matter how unpleasant it is, here?s what may be heard around the dinner table: ?I?m so miserable without you,? or ?How could you be so selfish and so inconsiderate of me?? or ?After all I?ve sacrificed for you? (note this one may be accompanied by one of the already mentioned nonverbal ?forlorn looks?). What?s the effect of all this knife twisting? Maybe your fear of having to be too devoted will cause you to be afraid of close relationships and so your search for love will never end well. In the chapter ?Why Can?t I Fall in Love and Stay in Love,? you?ll read stories of people whose relationships were damaged by just this issue.
Let?s continue with our other style of guilt-provoking manipulation?the Bludgeon. An example of this type is found when you act independently of your authoritarian parent and he or she loses control, explodes in anger, and screams at you because you weren?t obedient or submissive enough. What?s the effect of bludgeoning? In the chapter ?Why Am I Fat and Why Can?t I Lose Weight?? you?ll read about Alice, who rebelled against her controlling parents by getting fat and staying that way.
Whether it?s a slowly twisting knife, a bludgeoning from a hammer, an icy stare or a cold shoulder, the effect of these over-emotional displays of exaggerated suffering is the same?to manipulate you to change a normal behavior or abandon a normal goal. But why would you change what is normal and acceptable? Because you feel so guilty for inflicting such terrible pain, you?ll conform to their personality flaws no matter how resentful or damaging that may be for your life.
The Stranger at the Party
As a child, it?s hard to imagine that you have the power to inflict so much damage on your parents or siblings just by being yourself and doing the normal things that children do. But because they constantly act so wounded, it?s difficult for you to be unaffected by their guilt-provoking behavior. Now think about this: If you had a brief encounter with an unpleasant stranger at a cocktail party, would you assume then that you were responsible for his offensive behavior? Or would you say to yourself, or to a friend, ?What?s up with him?? Chances are you?d know that if that person behaved badly, it wasn?t your fault. But with your parent or sibling, you?ve been blamed for their unhappiness over a long, long time and you?ve been burdened by long-lasting feelings of (unconscious) guilt. Why is it so difficult to avoid feeling guilty toward your parents when you probably wouldn?t blame yourself for the badly behaving stranger?
The Gods Must Be Angry
As children, we view our parents in the same way that members of a primitive tribe view their gods. When the gods are angry, the heavens erupt and earthquakes, floods, and droughts occur. Tribal elders know for certain that the gods must be appeased. Amends must be made for hurting the gods. With a lack of knowledge about the causes of the natural disasters it experiences, the tribe assumes that it has angered the gods of nature. And so by altering its behavior through prayer, performing rituals and sacrifices, the tribe believes it can placate the offended gods and so alleviate the punishment. But in altering its behavior in order to amend and atone, the tribe may make accommodations even if they?re detrimental to its well-being?for instance, sacrificing a cow even if there?s a shortage of cows.
In the same way, as a child you assumed that your behavior was responsible for provoking your parents. Though this assumption was often just a general feeling and not clearly well thought out, it was based on real experiences with siblings or parents who constantly acted hurt, threatened, or angered by your normal behaviors. Remember the mother in the joke at the beginning of the chapter?the one who made her son feel guilty about not paying enough attention to her? Have you ever been in a similar situation? If so, what did you do? Did you act like the member of the indigenous tribe and make sacrifices to appease your gods (okay, parents)? Did you change something normal in yourself in order to not hurt them again? Was the result that you resented yourself for appeasing your parents at your own expense? If so, your resentment will also have you trapped in self-defeating responses as you go through life. What might that look like? You might rebel against the mother in the joke and become unresponsive to anyone who wants your interest. Or, in response to a controlling parent, you might become stubborn, defiant, and disagreeable, no matter how severe the cost is to you. Throughout your life these qualities will undermine your relationships with others and also your goals.
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Changing to keep our parents happy, or at least to not make them angry, is
something you may have tried while growing up. But did you know exactly what you were changing and why? And if you didn?t, did you still try to change anyway?
Compare your situation to this one and see if it helps put it all in perspective for you. You?ve been job-hunting for a while and now at last your search is over. You?ve landed a job. Only problem is, you don?t know what the job entails, what is expected of you, and what the requirements actually are. One day you walk into work and your boss is angry with you and you don?t know why. You find yourself thinking, ?What did I do?? ?Was it the way I handled report A, was it the way I dealt with situation B, or maybe it was how I dealt with customer C?? You decide which situation you think it was and then you make what you think is the appropriate change. Next time, you think (and hope) it will be different. Your boss will have nothing to be angry about.
You?ve taken care of the problem. Does that make sense to you? Changing but not knowing what you did wrong or fully understanding the situation before you start to make the change? If you don?t know what the problem is, how can you possibly be expected to fix it? To an adult this probably doesn?t make sense, does it? But this is what we, as kids, do. Right or wrong, sense or nonsense, we try to change to make sure our parents (or other siblings) won?t be angry or hurt. We?re always trying to keep those ?gods? of ours happy so they don?t get angry.
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Is there any person on this earth who has not faced adversity? Life can be good, but adversities are also part of life. How does one face them with equanimity? It is difficult if the extent of adversity is very high. But one has to live through adversities and come back in life to succeed again. A sudden accident can make one lose limbs. A man who makes his living with his hands, will surely feel very bad and devastated if he loses his working hand. How about the effect of the announcement by the doctor that your child has cancer? Can parents take this news calmly? They will most probably faint when they hear it first. Some adversities are such that they shatter lives forever. But strong will and faith can help one face and conquer many adversities.
Who has not heard of Helen Keller? Her blindness and deafness could not shatter her indomitable spirit. There are many instances of such people. I had corresponded with families of cancer stricken children. The pain that I saw was enough to shake the bravest heart. I remember a small kid girl, who developed second degree burns as a reaction to her Chemotherapy. Her mother had a guest book and the notes on that site could make anyone weep. The pain that the child was undergoing was tremendous. But the photographs of a capped child smiling and laughing in the laps of her father were heart warming. Somewhere the spirit was alive in the family to fight it out cheerfully.
I also remember my conversations with a blind man of 70 years of age. He was secretary of one of the blind help groups. For sometime, during my talk, I realized that something strange was happening. Then suddenly it stuck me that this gentleman was using words such as Oh, I see, etc. without giving a pause. I was amazed with this talk. I knew that he had been a blind man for more than 40 years. I somehow gathered strength and asked him about usage of such words. He told me casually that there was nothing great about that. He could read and write and even type as well as any normal person. Though he had Braille. And he could see the faces with his touch. He had no regrets about his blindness. He had taken it as a fact of life and there was no feeling of having been dealt bad cards by the fate. Such people make us feel that adversities come to strengthen us. They test us. It is surely very tough to overcome them, but a strong will and faith in oneself and one’s God can give enough strength to overcome them.
Let us look at the life as a moving vehicle. As we move, we pass many scenes. Some good and some dirty. But we sit though the journey peacefully and reach our destination. We mostly remain unmoved because – we are not directly pained by the scenes outside and our focus is more on reaching the destination. In any adversity, at least the second part can be applied. Come what may, our object should be to create a good life and live as an example for others. That should be our destination and that should be our motivation.
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